Every year we ask the same question: are we staying or moving on? When we moved a couple years ago, we didn't really know what we had in store for us, but we knew it was time for a change. So we took a plunge and came out the other side completely soaked, but still breathing. It was a great experience and showed us the value of ownership and of letting go at the same time.
Once life settled down and we had cracked open every cardboard box, I wrote down what I learned from the experince. Having gone through what I know everyone goes through at some point in life, here is what we did to make our move happen. Probably nothing you haven't heard before, but helpful nonetheless!
Give yourself a deadline.
For some, a deadline is already set by outside circumstances like the end of a lease or a job change. For us, we simply decided it was time. This move was hard emotionally, and I knew without a doubt that if we didn't set ourselves a deadline, we would never get around to making ourselves do the hard things. So that's what we did. A deadline was agreed upon and we set our sights for sale.
Don't move anything you don't need to.
We offloaded a lot of stuff. We sold and gave away things I couldn't believe we still had after all the other "purges" we've gone through. Knowing we would be downsizing (big time), we made tough decisions one at a time. Using apps and services like eBay, Craigslist, and OfferUp, we sold everything from DVDs to clothing to furniture. We returned family items to our parents. Anything that wasn't used daily or that we had multiples of was removed so that on move day we didn't have to lift one box that didn't have a specific destination like our new home or a parent's house.
Call in the troops.
When the big day came, we were shocked to have a crew of about 10 family and friends to help us get our entire house loaded into one 20' truck. We weren't sure how many people we would get, and we were prepared to move everything by ourselves. Now that idea sounds completely ludicrous. We couldn't have done it without the help of every person who came. It honestly opened our eyes to just how many truly good friends we have and how many people are willing to sacrifice their time for our benefit. It was a seriously humbling experience and a sweet reminder of the power of community and friendship.
Have you gone through a huge move? What lessons did you learn?